Fear Vs Sympathy. Which is better to raise my child?

Hi all, this is the first of my blog in English language so please bare with me.

Being a new father I have been faced with many challenges that i want to discuss with the internet and also, use this blog as a reminder for me so i can read it again after seeing the results, so let's begin, and i'll try to keep it under 250 words so people don't get bored.

my 1st challenge of being a father was the immense stress added on my shoulders to try to raise my child correctly, so I've spent a lot of time reading about babies and how to raise them all throughout the internet. And, I've reached a conclusion, no one really knows what they are talking about when it comes to child psychology and how to integrate it with the philosophical conundrums such as religion, faith, and so on, which in some way was important to me on how to raise my child from  day one (not that a toddler would understand any of it but let me explain). If i raised my child to consider fear (the most primitive feeling) as the initial motivation for reactions then my child  -on the long run- will learn about consequences and how he should consider them before taking any action, but if sympathy (the more learned than inherited feeling) was his initial motivation he will learn to consider other people feelings before taking any action. Don't get me wrong, both are very good attributes to a personality, but which must be more dominant. Fear is by default the most powerful feeling, babies are born with it, it is directly linked to the process of cognition and learning, while toddlers show first signs of sympathy at the age of 18 months, and sympathy is directly related to social intelligence and altruism. And, it is up to the parents to nourish one feeling over the other and this process started the day my child was born. 

It's mainly a matter of balance, I understand that, and i am not trying to kill the human sympathy in my newborn, but i also do not want him to disregard the burden of his own consciousness of blame. I want him too become a good man as he grow up, but what actually define as "Good" is relative to each person's perception. So, do i want him to forever suffer the need to continuously abide to other people needs, or do I want him to become a made man who always rely on himself. I actually do not know because either way he will suffer in his life and I do not want that for my baby. 

But, again, in life there is relatively few things that i can do for him that can actually lessens the suffering that he is going to face in his life, and, one of these things is to give him hope in life, teach him to have faith, and, that leads back to religion.
From my perspective fear is better to make my child more adaptable to religion, but at the same time, fear kills compassion in the most obvious ways. 

I need your help here :)